By: iamAldonLopez | June 16, 2019
I have read a lot of articles about the psychological effects of growing up without a father.
According to Ben Spencer from the Daily Mail says: “Growing up without a father could permanently alter the structure of the brain.”
I felt pity to those who experienced this instance. I know it could possibly have a huge impact on who we become later in life. Some of them more likely to be depressed, be immured and likely to commit suicide, use drugs, have low self-esteem, and aggressive, etc.… I am so glad that I wasn’t able to experience those instances because growing up I had my loving grandparents and my mother. They taught me so much about things in life which helps me become a better version of myself today.
Anyway, since it’s Father’s Day today! Hence, I’m not going to focus on myself. Instead, I’m going to give you a throwback of how was things going when our ‘papa’ was still alive. It was short but full of love.
As a child, our Father and my siblings were inseparable and we were always with him. It was as if we were attached at the hip. He led and we followed. Wherever he went we weren’t far behind, even when he was at talking to his friends or at the kitchen preparing for our breakfast, lunch and dinner.
When we were young, we couldn’t possibly have loved anyone as much as we loved our Father. We definitely had our moments when there were arguments and disagreements. At the end of the day, we loved our father with all our hearts. Our love for others was no where near as powerful as the love we had for him.
A little over 25 years ago, the world I knew came to a crashing burning end when we lost the one person who meant the most to us, our Father. We lost our “Papa”, best friend, hero, the one person we truly loved with all our hearts. We were devastated, worse yet, we were heart broken. Everything seemed so surreal. We felt like it’s going to be our end as well. However, we were and are still lucky because we still have our mother who become our greatest superhero who stands before us, sacrifices everything just to let us alive. Special mentioned to my grandmother who helped her raised us. Pa, we all know that you’re in heaven. We might not be able to become as what you want us to be but we know that you’re very proud of us. Thank you for the guiding us, we just want you to know that we never stop growing and changing.
Now, after all these years, this I believe: “love lives for eternity.” We have never lost the epic love we had for our father and never will. I have learned from experienced that love never drifts away like the wind though my fingers. Once your love for someone enters the gate to your heart, it will always remain. Not a single day goes by that we don’t think about the man who helped give us life. All the memories we experienced together are still clearly imprinted in my mind as if it were yesterday. Even though, he is not standing before us today or able to give us a simple kiss or hug, the love we hold for our ‘papa’ will always stay alive deep with in our heart because this I believe.
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